101 rules to marriage

...1... make sure your marriage is equally yoked... before "i do"

{/yōk/ past tense: yoked verb- physically hitched together, tethered, fastened, attached, joined as one}
          
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14

this verse it talking about something deeper than friendship folks!! Paul is talking about who you choose to do life with... who you will be joined with... who you will be tethered to!! you don't want to be tethered to someone who is a spiritual dead weight, holding you back from God & His blessings!

just think of it this way... what happens when {not if, but when} life gets rough & the world says just leave while you can... what if your spouse is an unbeliever & doesn't recognize the voice of God that says "don't give up!"...

do NOT enter a marriage unequally yoked

...2... take the "D" word out of your vocabulary

' "I hate divorce," says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, "I hate the violent dismembering of the 'one flesh' of marriage." So watch yourselves. Don't let your guard down. Don't cheat.' Malachi 2:16

and...

"Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose." Proverbs 18:21

do NOT kill your marriage with your own words  

...3... stop talking & just listen

...4... don't go to bed angry

' “In your anger do not sin", Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry...' Ephesians 4:26

but that doesn't mean stay up all night going around & around trying to solve every issue. make amends & ask each other for forgiveness... with resolve to figure it out after a good night sleep :)

...5... forgiveness is essential

we forgive because we want forgiveness... but more importantly because He first forgave us...

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

before we even asked for forgiveness... before we even knew we needed a savior, Christ died for us... we are so undeserving of forgiveness yet there is Grace...

show Grace to your spouse... because you too are a sinner in need of forgiveness

...6... intimacy... sex... knowing each other... is CRUTIAL!!

"My lover is mine, and I am his." Song of Solomon 2:16

"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession{an exception}, not as a command."  1 Corinthians 7:3-6

 

ladies, our husbands need sex like we need meaningful conversation... both of these things are intimacy! do NOT allow the world to flaunt herself in front of your man while you stand by watching... he needs you!

...7... pray together DAILY!!!

i found these stats on ChristianPost.com...

"FamilyLife® has surveyed of thousands of Christian couples and found that less than 8% pray together on regular basis. That is a shockingly low percentage. However, the statistics that I found show that of Christian couples who actively pray together, the divorce rate is less than one percent." {http://crossmap.christianpost.com/blogs/praying-together-as-a-couple-60}

beat divorce with prayer... the stats don't lie!!

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